今天我想谈恋爱

每个人，无论你是18, 28, 38, 48, 58, 68,如果你是单身，相信99%的人都会想谈恋爱。18 岁的时候，可能是第一次, 充满了好奇。那时候，两个人能走在一起，相信是缘份。没有多大的考虑，喜欢就在一起呗，冲动任性的青春期。试问，有多少18到88还在一起的呢？

28 岁的时候，可能不是新手了，多了些想法。会看看这，看看哪，看适不合适，想想未来如何如何。如果是女孩，可能会更加担忧。担心自己年纪不小了，又担心选错。毕竟，也是到了谈论婚姻的阶段，岁月不留人呐。男孩呢，其实很多男孩在这个岁数没多大的考虑。还是心态不稳定的状态，浮浮沉沉的过一天又一天。38岁，这个岁数，想踏入婚姻的，应该都完成了。成了剩男剩女。其实，对我而言，没什么剩不剩的。没遇到就是没遇到，比强求来的好吧。48, 58, 68, 以上的 还会想要个伴，除了寂寞，我想不到任何理由。

每个人都爱谈恋爱。喜欢有人疼，有人关心。有不想的吗？遇到的，会是对的人吗？ 或是，你有机会遇到吗？什么时候会遇到，是何时？这些问题，没人能够给出一个答案。没有一样东西是完美的。完美的相遇？你能把它形容成完美，可能在另一个人的眼中，那并不完美。所以，完美是个人的定义。真的不必在乎她他人的认同。跟何况，你认为的完美，只是这个阶段的，你能看到未来也是完美的吗？所以，世上其实没有完美这东西。在爱还没来之前，应该先爱自己，那可能是最完美的行动。

寂寞可能是最大的敌人。如果没有寂寞，人与人大可不必谈恋爱。在爱还没来时，应该做些什么呢？有人说，养个宠物，把爱都放在宠物上，也是种寄托。有人说，埋头苦干，把时间精神都放在工作事业上，也是消磨时间的好办法。但，可能，不知那年那日，你的宠物离开了，日常伴侣离开了，你伤心。而等待你的，可能是你当初最害怕的，寂寞。那时的你，会不会突然觉得世界变得好冷好冷。同样地，当你完成了你的目标，事业有成了，你停下看看自己，老了。你可能会有点后悔，为何当初用了所有精力在工作上。为什么当初不尝试用些时间，做些想做的东西。比如，到国外看看世界，趁还有体力，到处走走。钱，赚到了，寂寞，还是同样在哪，当你不再忙于工作，停下的时候，它又悄悄地来了。在我现在认识的世界里，时间是没可能倒流的。错过的，真的只能成为遗憾。遗憾又不能回馈你什么，只能加强你对自己认为错误的选择。什麽才是最好的？答案还是一样，没有最好的，没有完美的。也许，最好的答案就是，活在当下。想做你想的，因为，错过了，就是过去了，没得从来。喜欢就去喜欢，不喜欢就不喜欢。把自己的人生活得精彩是自己对自己的一种交待。也许不是每个你遇到的人与事，都会有好的结果。至少，当你离开的那刻，你知道自己尽了力，你能做的，都做了。

可能缘份真的是你出现在世上前以被安排了，但当缘份来时，没有行动肯定也不会有结果。好比如，如果流行飞过许愿是真的会实现，当它飞过时，你不许下你的愿望，只是观望，你认为流星会实现你的愿望吗？它都没听到你的愿望，怎会知道你要什么，对不？！想谈恋爱吗？那就是现在呗！因为你不会知道，错过了，可能就像哈雷彗星一样，再次出现，已是76年后了。

趴趴走

背上背包，搭上火车，去到了一个陌生的小镇。所有遇到的，都是新鲜的。

那年的某个早晨，从濱城的火车站，10多小时的火车，到达了华欣小镇。

这里算是比较平静的。没有城市的繁荣，也没有花花绿绿的世界。饭后，走在沙滩上，晚霞，海滩，海浪，白云，很美。

逗留了两天，继续搭巴士到曼谷，然后火车到吴哥，世界奇观之一。百年老树，百年建筑物。火爆的天气，也是另一种感觉，一个新的认识。

10多天的背包游走，从濱岛一路向北，最后一站，从胡志明飞了回来。那是十多年前的回忆。

来到了三年前，清迈。天气有点冷。路边找了个当地的人，谈好了，一个人，就坐上了个货车的后箱，往深山里去。路上冷冷地风吹打在脸上，心是平静地。犹豫记得，是很冷很冷，非常的冷。

两小时后，停在一个看似深林的入口。天色开始暗了。得赶快找到目的地。走着走着，天色暗了下来。没有路灯，一丝灯光也没有。伸手不见五指的那种。有点害怕。害怕不是黑暗，害怕是因为，如果我找不着，那不就要在这深林里过夜了吗？

背着背包，步行了快30分钟, 我知道自己迷路了。原本还有手机的灯光，这下没电了。一片黑暗，不算可怕。可怕的是，我联络不到任何人。没有人知道我在哪。又黑，又冷，又没有方向感。

在无助的时候，我看到了一个圆圆的灯。是个当地的人，骑着摩托。很幸运地，把我带到了目的地。原来，从下车的那刻，踏出第一步，向左向右的选择，已是错了。难怪越走越黑。

几天在深山里的静修，把心里的波浪，平复了。这里是与世隔绝的。住的是深林里的小木屋，吃的简单，早晨做做运动，听听师傅说说故事。很平静的生活。

又回忆到很多很多年前，忘了那地方的名。是在山顶高原上，辽国的隔壁的一个山丘。哪里，中午超热，晚间超冷。黄昏后，坐在草原，看看天上的星星✨，月空下的浪漫。一个人的浪漫，有时候可以好像拥有了整个世界。世界在那刻，变得特别美丽。

思路飞到了尼泊尔，古老的城市，不同的风俗，环境，历史的神迹。好像回到了千年之前。站在纳摩山上，可以看到雪白的珠穆朗玛峰（mount Everest), 世界最高峰。有点仙境的感觉。一个神话故事，7岁抬头，指向天。这里有的是，神话！

再来，飞到了日本，不同文化的国家。用我会读但不知道意思的日语能力，成功穿梭在日习俗里。这个比较城市的地方，新大阪，这里没有大自然。这里有漫画城，有超巨大的海滩动感超人ultraman。这里的一切，都比较科幻。有同年的回忆。

印度，第三世界国家。资源不是很足。没多大的回忆。空气里的尘，不能喝的水，是这里的记忆，对不起。

雪山，雪球，滑雪，滑板，这是瑞士。喜欢雪的我，这里是天堂。有着运动细胞的优势，滑雪板，不用学就可以上场了。但最后还是撞板了。在雪场上，我总是跌跌撞撞。记得，在澳洲的蓝山，第一次滑雪，也撞飞了个鬼妹。雪地，三层的度假屋，住在的西式三角屋顶上，小小的窗口望出去，是一遍白，很有味道。这里有的是圣诞气氛。

海边，几颗站立的石头， 門徒石 （Great Ocean), 世界奇观之一。没特别，就那么几块石头。英国的 巨石阵 (Stone Henge)， 也是类似。两个都是需要几个小时的车程，看的就是石头。说是外星遗物，也说不上。我在那俩地方，感觉不到任何外星的feel。

小九寨沟，美丽的瀑布，小河，天然花草，美！少林寺，湖南，长江三峡，不错的游走胜地。也许，比较商业化了，没有那么天然清新的感觉。北京，故宫，万里长城，水立方，都不错。

红酒提炼场，一个透明窗的餐厅，独立在草丛里，格外的特别。美酒加草原的视野，没得说。宁静是这里的特色。可以坐上一整天。这里是澳洲某某的郊外。

香港，澳门，新加坡，印尼，这些不说了，都是城市。还是大自然比较好。数一数，英国，瑞士，泰国，新加坡，印尼，印度，尼泊尔，香港，澳门，中国，澳洲，日本，柬埔寨，13个地方，是我去过的地方。希望再加多几个。比如希腊神话的爱情海，土耳其的热气球等等。

Next 新西兰，越南 ？

Let's go! 今年尾

是真的还是假的

停下了脚步，走回我的房里，打算看一看房间是不是都安好。房里没什么特别的，环绕了一下，就把那木门关上。在还没关上的那一刻，好像有批力量把那木门往外拉开。我用力拉向我，试着要把门关上，那力量更大力了。拉扯中，我意识到了，这并不寻常。是谁在和我拉扯呢？恐惧感出现在我脑里，我用力拉了两下，终于把门关上了。正当我觉得应该赶紧离开的时候，我背部被拍了一下。把我给吓傻了！也被吓醒了，头上凉凉的。是米獸在我的枕头上走过。这个梦，也太有动力感了吧。

门代表机会。关上一个们，也许代表失去了个机会, 或是结束了一些事情。背后被拍了下，代表现实中，有人想和我拉近关系。但，那一下，真的吓到我了。可以不可以不要这样的惊吓。

年初二，还发了这个奇怪的梦。望向米獸，它又躺在我旁边睡觉。用手摸摸它的背部，它突然被我吓醒！跳了起来，用萌萌的样子看着我， 哈哈哈！好像我刚才的梦。

很多人说梦会预知未来，我并不认为。我觉得，是因为你的脑电波，在你清醒的时候，你的意志力在某个事情上，倾向或加强了你对某些事或人的情事上，而转换成梦。梦不是未来的预告，它只是放映出你当时比较强烈的一部份思想。所以，梦很多时候都会变成真，是因为你的意志力在默默地助力。记得我写过，意志力是，无限的力量。

6点半睡到10点半，12点半睡到7点半，10点半睡到12点半，3点半睡到6点半，8点半睡到10点半，12点半睡到7点半。。。我的新年就是睡觉。是时候用用我的意志力了，想想这想想那。有感觉到被我想了吗？如果没有，让我用我的意志力进入你的梦，和你打个招呼吧~

无限的能力

我想在这里分享一个，每个人都天生拥有的能力。有了这个能力，在这个“虚拟的世界里”, 没有任何事情是做不到的。这种能力叫“意志力”

一个体重100公斤的女孩，她的梦想就是要廋下来，要有好身材。她下了很大的决心，在短短6个月里，一定会把自己变得苗条。每天控制食量，做足几小时的运动，一天又一天过去了，她终于达到目标了。

她是如何能做到的呢？答案其实很简单，因为她拥有了一个梦想。她的目标是把自己廋下来 。梦想，是所有成功的第一步。接下来，她有了很大的决心。这个决心必需是发至内心的。内心的强大，让她有了动力。有了动力，就会有行动，然后坚持下去，成功就不会遥远了。她会有很大的决心，是发自她的意志力。她告诉自己，我必须减肥成功，我必须减肥成功。越大的意志力，就会造就越大的决心，越大的决心，也就跟着越长久的坚持， 直到成功出现。所以，第二个成功的条件是，意志力。

梦想，每个人都有。不论你的梦想是什么，我相信，人类想像得到的，都会实现。关键在于，你的意志力有多强大。

在新闻里，你也许看过一些报导，真实的报导，有些拥有“特异功能”的人类，可以用意志力把一个汤匙扭歪。这其实也没什麽特别的。他之所以做得到，不是因为他拥有特异功能，而是他的意志力。我们每个人都有，只是他的比我们的强好多倍。我相信，每个人都可以做得到。就是看你对那个你的梦想有多大的渴望。渴望可以变成一种需求，你很想要，你就会一直想，一直想，慢慢地，就会加强你的意志力。当达到某个程度后，你的意志力就会，扭转空间，把人类认为不可能的事变的可能。每样事物都有不同程度上的意志力。如果意志力的强与弱可以用分数来形容的话，减肥，可能需要的意志力是20分。如果你的梦想是买彩票中几千亿，你可能需要50分的意志力。如果你想瞬间移动，飞到宇宙的另一端，那可能要80分的意志力。那，90分的意志力，可以做什么？我想，大概可以穿越我们的空间，到另一个空间里（还是在同一个世界里）。100分呢？100分，应该可以离开这个“虚拟世界”，离开所有不同的空间，到达世界外面的地方。由此可见，我们的意志力可以说是无限的。因为，至少，它可以把你的梦想在这个“世界”里实现。

地球🌍，只是这虚拟世界里的一粒沙。地球外，还有木星，土星，金星，火星，流星，黑洞，哈利彗星，等等。我也有个梦想，梦想有一天能到每个星球走一趟。看看银河，看看黑洞，看看太阳与月亮。这个实现的机会可能很小很小，几乎零。但，有一个也是很小几率的事情已发生在我身上了。如果地球是这“世界”里的一粒沙，那，我们人类可以说是沙里的一个很小很小的一个点。在看这文章的你，是不是很惊讶呢，一个点和另一个点，可以相遇的几率，也差不多等于零。过了这次的相遇，下一个再相遇，不知何时了。。。可能，需要上几千亿的时间吧。也或许，下次的相遇，会是在火星上。😜

The Road to be a 'M'

I don't think anyone like to read a long story on how I had started my journey from nothing to something. Thus, I will straight to the point and let me tell you how to make a M in year 2021.

Investment is the key; working hard will not get you rich. So, it is still the same story here, invest in Stock markets. 

The stock I am after is called JFTech (0146). This is not a new listed company and was already there many years ago. However, they only started to get better in recent years, after they finally settled their court case in year 2017 with their customer. Since then, they have applied a lot of Copyright to their services/products, to avoid the same mistake made. 

Why do I choose JFTech?

There are many good stocks in the market. Few most popular in year 2020 would be Kpower, UWC, Greatec. They are all almost hitting 1000% gain in about a year duration. JF has surged from the lowest of about RM1 to RM5 today, total of 500% increase in year 2020. If we looked at the year before 2017, it was only priced at around 0.50. So there is already a total of 1000% since then. However, this does not prevent me from continuing buying them and support my own believe that, they can go much further up.

There are few reasons why I select JF.

1) Apart from PBBANK that proposing Bonus Issue of 4:1 (1 share gives 4 share), JFtech is the second best in history now. they are giving out Bonus Issue of 3:1 and come with two free warrants for each share you hold. I am not going for PBBANK although they had proposed 4:1; the reason is I believe all banks will not do good in future. Digital bank (and crypto currency) will emerge very soon and overtake all the banks, in year 2021. Furthermore, Pbbank now is unlike the Pbbank in old times, they are no longer that good. (another topic not to discuss here)

For the young generation (those that are aged younger than 60 years old now), may not know the real meaning behind Bonus issue. When a company managed to give a bonus issue of 1:1, it is already consider a very good company. If the company can give Bonus issue of 2:1 (example TopGlove), it is already one of the top company in history already. Imagine, JFtech is now giving 3:1 and with 2 free warrant, that is best of the best. It merely means the company has the capabilities to earn a lot and grow very fast in the near future. In order to issue a bonus issue, you need to have the fact that your company can earn a certain amount of profit and also have a strong reserved money. This has to be audited by the Security Community (SC) to approve your proposed Bonus Issue. Therefore, it is not like saying anyone can simply issue bonus issue, you must meet the requirements. In short, JFtech has proven themselves to be a strong earning company in the coming near future, and the approved Bonus issue justified that. It is one of the best of the best in history, in terms of giving Bonus Issue. 

2) JFtech made some announcement that they will go to the main board maybe in year 2021. I have checked on the requirement to be listed on Main Market; It requires the company to have at least gain a Profit After Tax of 20 M in the past 3-5 years and the last quarter must be 6M and above. I have a look at their current earning, I think to get 20M in the past 3-5 years, JF has already met the requirement. However the last quarter is only 4M and they need to hit one quater with more than 6 M before they can apply to go on Main board. If they are serious about this (I think so, no one will officially announce that they want to go on main board but end up not qualify right, will be a joke if that happen), it means that they must already have the confidence to get one quater with profit after tax of 6 M in one of the 4 quaters in 2021. I guess they are already some confirmation on new award contract but not announce yet. This somehow guarantee that, their profit will  at least increase 50% in the coming quaters.

3) The ex date of the Bonus Issue is 20th Jan 2021. With this announcement, the fixed exercise price of the warrant is 1.16. Based on the share price now, it was closed at 4.96 last Friday. Therefore, assuming if the price never move up anymore, after the Ex date, the price for each share will be roughly 4.96/4 = 1.26. This means that, the share price after ex is already exceed the warrant exercise price. It also means that the warrant is now  "In the Money", it is worth 0.10 intrinsic value. However, this will not happen because, if the warrant stay only at 0.10, all smart investor will sell everything (sell house, sell car, sell pants) and sai lang the warrant. The warrant price cannot be 10 times from the mother share price, otherwise everyone will invest in the warrant and will become Billionaire easily. With this mathematic fact, I have come out with an assumption to predict the price in the coming few weeks. The assumption is that, the price will be above 4.96 on the ex date. My guess is that, it will hit around 6.40 on the ex date, and the after ex price will be roughly 1.30 and warrant of 0.60 each. In summary, if my prediction is correct, you should be able to gain a total of 2.6k for each share you hold now, assuming you bought at Rm5 now. When a free warrant is "In the money" it is like giving you free money, dropping from the sky, you just need to grab it. 

4) Their recent big customer is Huawei. If you believe Huawei is a future product, you should be confident that JFtech will be doing good as well. In fact, they have started a factory in China now. The fact is that, Huawei is a big customer and you will never scare of worrying about your company revenue when you had secured a big customer. 

I have listed 4 reasons why I choose JFtech above. Lets read on the below, one of the story that I have made up and see if it make sense and justify the above.

Story

Jftech has secured big contract with Huawei. They themselves knowing that Huawei can give them more business in the future. Therefore they have setup a factory and office in China. Huawei told them that, you got to be listed in the main board, to be my future long term business partner. This triggered why JFtech commented that they want to go Main board very soon. In order to go Main Board, one of the things is to increase the number of share amount, to increase equity. Therefore, that is the reason why they giving a 3:1 Bonus issue, splitting and more shares in the market, and giving free warrants. For them to fulfil the requirement to the main board, their profit after tax must increase a minimum of 50%. They must have bagged some contract which will announce sometime in 2021 before they go and apply from SC. Thus, if you analyse all this carefully, it is not hard to make a conclusion: JF profit will be increasing tremendously in year 2021.

Strategy

Before continue further, I think I should give you the strategy on how to play on this JFtech.

Simple, just buy and keep. I believe in 3 years time, it will return you over 2500% gain. I am predicting it hit back to 5rm price after ex date on 20 Jan, to be happened sometimes in 2021 (a bit too much... but I think that should be the case if JFtech is as good as what I think)

When the warrant price has less than 3% premium, you may consider to sell it and buy the mother share. Anyway, this might be too early to discuss as we need to be sure JFtech is really as good as what I had predicted and reach the target I had predicted first.

The question now is how to make 1 M in 2021. Answer is, you need to invest 225k. Assuming you bought JFtech at price of 5RM, so you get 45 biji. After Ex date, you get 45+(45x3) +90 = 270 biji (assuming warrant also count as 1 biji, but because u need to pay 1.16 to convert to mother share, and if the price is rm5, the 90 biji warrant actually worth only roughly 70 biji equivalent value. Therefore, to get to 1M with 250 biji, you need the price of 5 rm. So, if say, after Ex, the price keep increase until 5. With 5 x 250, you get 1.25 M. After deduct away what you had invested 225k. you left with about 1M ! This is not a dream, it is only 500% (x5) increase from today when you read this blog. If Greatech, UWC can do that with almost 1000%, why not JFtech. JFtech supposed to be a better one compare to UWC and Greatec. Thus, 500% should be sap sap sui to achieve in year 2021 (unless world economic crisis come)

Of course, you can adjust your target. If you wish to earn 100k, then you need to invest roughly 22.5k now (which mean you should hold 4.5 biji now). I believe this is possible to achieve in 2021. 500% is the target! In long run, I am expecting over 2500% return, worst case would be in 5 years time, but I think 3 years is enough. Hold it until you get 2500% profit if you are going for long term.

The facts

After reading until here, you might not agree with me. It sounds too good to invest. It is like money dropping from the sky right? if that is the case, why is everyone waiting for? I have also thought about this before and there is an answer to it. You will be surprised, because, money drop from the sky, not everyone knows how to grab it!

First of all, those big shark (big investor/group of investor like EPF or foreign fund) tends to not pick this kind of stock like JFtech. The reason is simple, they only go for stable and proven track records stocks. JFtech is still a young baby in the share market, with superb potential growth. The risk is still there. However, I am not saying all investor are coming from small fish (small fish mean people like us, 小kacang), in fact, most investor that hold this share now should be coming from medium size investors (maybe some local fund). One fact is that, when a good company gives bonus issue, it is basically hoping you to keep their share and you will only get the reward the next time they give you dividend or the price of the share increase after split (you got more unit now). Thus, it is actually delaying your profit and it becomes a longer term investment. Thus, not all big/medium investors like to put their money in such a long durations. However, those local fund that want to earn from it has already purchased what they wanted by now.

In terms of small fish, I have tried to explained all this to my family members, good friends (those that I hope they can also make some money with this stock), explaining the future, the fact of the company is strong, the best of the best bonus issue, but unfortunately, so far, only 3 have purchased and trusted me. Those that do not believe has a common comment:

"The PE ratio (Price per Earning) is now already hitting above 100, it is overpriced!" Then, they look at the graph and said, "already up 1000% since the start and 500% in 2020. Too Expensive!!!" "I wait for it to drop or correction, then only I buy."

Everyone replied the same thing to me. I have tried to explain that, the PE will drop when their earning increase; but that still doesn't help to make them put in some money. OK... I give up.....now I know why always Small Fish lost in the share market. Small fish tends to be 近视, only view things in short term. The most common mistake is, they look at the past and not willing to see the future. (past shows the price up so much and therefore consider expensive now, future they think it is not something that guarantee will happen)

I am not saying myself an expert, but I think I have learned quite a lot , keep improving my knowledge and with a cool mind, you can move in the right direction. The golden rule is that:

If you know something is good, you need to go for it. Waiting and no action taken will never get you there. Waiting will ends up nothing for you.

不看过去只看未来，不想错过就快点心动啦~

（没写错，是心动。你先要心动了才有行动嘛）

Disclaimer: this is not a buy or sell call ya ~ 

心星

有时候不得不赞👍下自己，是天份还是天才，我不知道。新的灵感就这样，突然漂浮在我脑里。🤣🤣🤣

坐在阳台，选了这5样工具。两支画笔，那没什么特别。一个透明的acrylic板和一个银铁棒。这两个东西其实是女孩化装用的，上网买的时候，看到acrylics 字, 以为是用来给画acrylics图用的。买错了，但也还可以自创用在画画上面。最后一个工具是妳们熟悉的开电话锁用的针。猜得到这个电话针如何用在画画上吗？这5样东西如何画出一个画呢？

圣诞巧克力画

圣诞节要来了，就画些圣诞关联的东西。圣诞树，圣诞糖果，圣诞星星，还有，可爱的姜饼 (gingerbread)

先用小小毛笔画了它们的外壳，然后再用小毛笔涂满巧克力。最后就是用那根银棒，把圣诞树“刮”上灯泡💡。把星星“刮”上snowflake ❄️。把圣诞糖果“刮”上绳➰。把姜饼公仔“刮”上眼，嘴，衣服👚。圣诞挂（刮）画就这样完成了。

这样的画法，自己给起了个名，叫“刮画”。

想想，刮画面世了 （20号12月2020年），是出至于自己的“发明” 喔~

左看右看，好像少了什么。让我想想，该如何把这刮画弄得特别点。

腦里飘过了一个图，一个idea!

心星

这幅画其实不难，特别的是它涵盖的意义。首先，涂满了蓝色。在还没完全干的时候，拿起了那根小小的电话锁，就开始“刮”了一颗星星。周围加了些圈圈，把这颗星包围起来。拿起那支银棒，在外边“刮”了些背景图。最后，用回那电话针，“刮”白了整颗星。

可能，这“刮画”看上去没什特别。看到最后再给它打个分数（几颗心）好吗 😁

把旁边的白色布也图上蓝色，就完成了这星星画。但。。。它还没干，我不能把这画放到它的架上。会把架也染上蓝色。。。

所以，我做了以下这个动作。

看到什么特别吗？

没错，我是把它挂（刮）在架子上。

这个是升级版的“刮画”呢！

“刮画”的摆放方式是，把它挂在架上！🤩
哈哈哈，有时真的觉得自己好聪明！！很有创意感！！

但，这创意还没完。。。。

看到这里，有没发觉为什么上面画的是星星，但，这幅画，我给它取了个名，叫“心星”吗？

答案。。。。猜猜看😆

心星 - 是一个礼物，也是一种心意。 源自马来西亚的一位男孩的创作品（shmily62)。这个作品是以刮画的方式完成的。上面画了一个星。摆放的方式是把那幅画挂勾在架子上。这代表了，送礼的人，把他/她的(心)星，挂在了收礼的人哪儿。

喜欢与爱💕

喜欢和爱， 有什差别？

人家说，喜欢是淡淡的爱。爱是深深的喜欢。

爱一个人，可以盲目地爱。

喜欢一个人，通常不会盲目地喜欢。不是吗？ 当你还没喜欢一个人的时候，要从没有喜欢变成喜欢，应该是因为对方的某些才华，或是他/她对待你很好，或者某些原因，渐渐地过了一段时间后，才会慢慢地喜欢上。

如果从没感觉到有喜欢的感觉是一瞬间，那个就叫，一见钟情了。然后，如果要一见钟情后，对方也看上你，两个人才可能在一起。这种情况会比较少，所以，喜欢通常不会是盲目的。它多数是经历了一段时间后，才会有结果。

如果要投入一段感情，你应该把喜欢的时间拉长一点，然后才把喜欢变成爱。这样应该会对未来的发展比较好一点。

大多数的人，口头上说爱。其实并不知道什么是爱。那种感觉，可能只是喜欢，但却被认为是爱。打个比如吧，一对热恋的男女，女的说，我爱你，所以我每天都煲汤给你喝。男的说，我不喜欢喝汤。这个例子里，女的认为她爱他，为他付出了很多。但事实上，他没有从男方的角度去看，一味地认为她的付出就是爱。真正的爱，应该先明白另一半，是不是喜欢你对他的付出。如果他不喜欢喝汤，那就不喝汤呗。那才是真的爱的表现，对吧？那个女孩只是“喜欢”做她认为的东西, 这不是爱喔。

另个例子，男的时不时就买东西给他的女朋友。有名牌包包啦，化妆品啦，衣服啦，鞋子啦，等等。他认为这都是爱的表现。比较成熟的女生，可能会认为，这些都是物质上的满足感，有和没有，没多大分别。还是应该把钱存起来，以后不论要买房或什的，都会用得着。两者不同的观点，很容易就擦出火花。男的认为他所做的，是爱的表现，但其实，他只是做着他的“喜欢”，他认同的东西罢了。真正的爱应该就要两人好好地谈，达到一个共识。

我听说过，爱是盲目的，但没听说过，喜欢是盲目的。如果要爱的不盲目，就应该把喜欢的基础搞好。慢慢的喜欢，少少的喜欢，一点一点的喜欢，累积久了，自然就会变成爱了。爱不需要练习，它应该是发至内心的。当你认为，你做了某些东西给对方，因为你爱对方，那，这个肯定不是爱。那个只是你的喜欢。爱不需要经过任何“安排的付出”的。所以，爱并不难，它应该是自然的。

“喜欢”会比“爱”来的难。因为喜欢有很多种类。

记得。。很久很久很久以前，我曾经告诉一个女孩，“我喜欢你”。那女孩也回说“我也喜欢你呀！” 。 但我们没在一起。

因为，那女孩的那句话后， 我又说了一句话 “你的喜欢和我喜欢你的喜欢，是不同的” （她笑笑）

我们都知道，我们的喜欢，其实不是同一种类的喜欢。

虽然。。。。“喜欢”好像很复杂，其实也不怎复杂啦。喜欢就是有好感，不管什麽类型的喜欢，都是因为你对对方有了好感，愉快的感觉，欣赏对方。当“喜欢”的程度到了一个点，它就会变成了爱。很多很多的喜欢后将会自然而然的变成爱💕。

「喜欢一个人」，久了后，就会变成爱上那个人。

「喜欢，一个人」，久了后，就会变成爱上自己。

两个选择，最终还是同一个答案， 都变成“爱”；

只是。。。对象不同摆了 😂